How to squirt

What Even Is Squirting

Let’s talk about squirting because it is one of those things everyone is curious about, but not everyone fully understands. People want to know if it is real, if it is pee, if it's an orgasm, if it is some kind of female ejaculation, and whether anyone can learn it or if it is just a random body talent. These are all fair questions, so let’s actually unpack it. Squirting is a clear liquid that comes out of the urethra during sexual stimulation. Since the urethra is the same place where urine comes out, people get confused about what the liquid actually is. Here is what the current research says. A big part of squirting comes from the Skene’s glands. These glands sit on either side of the urethra and fill with fluid when you are aroused. That fluid contains Prostate-Specific Antigen Protein (PSA), the same protein found in the prostate. Before the fluid exits the body, it can mix with whatever urine is in the bladder at the time. That does not mean you peed yourself. It means your body is doing exactly what it is supposed to do. There is also another type of release that is more like a small amount of milky white fluid during orgasm. Some people refer to this as 'female ejaculation'. This is also thought to come from the Skene’s glands. It is just a different kind of release compared to the big gush most people associate with squirting.

Absolutely nothing about squirting is weird, dirty, shameful, or embarrassing. Some people love it. Some people find it messy or inconvenient. Both reactions are completely valid.

A Moment For Lola Jean

If you have not heard of Lola Jean, please look her up. She is an incredible educator who has done so much to break down shame and misinformation around squirting. She also set the world record by squirting 1.35 litres in 24 seconds. Researchers genuinely believed the human max was around 900 millilitres. Lola proved otherwise.

Squirting and Orgasms Are Not The Same

A lot of people assume squirting and orgasming automatically happen together. They do not. Some people squirt while they orgasm. Some squirt without orgasming. Some orgasm without squirting. Some bodies do everything at once. Squirting can feel super pleasurable because it often feels like a strong release, but it does not have to be tied to orgasm.

Can You Learn how to squirt?

For a lot of people, yes. For some, it may never happen, and that is totally normal. It is not a sexual trophy, and it does not mean you are doing something wrong. It is simply one of many ways a body can respond to pleasure.

How To Explore Squirting

The most common way people experience squirting is through G-spot stimulation. The G-spot AKA the G-Area, sits inside the vagina on the anterior wall toward your belly button about half an inch to two inches in. It usually feels slightly textured or spongy. You can use fingers in a come-hither motion, toys that are curved for G-spot stimulation like a Snail Vibe or the Sacred Squirter, and penises that have a natural upward curve. Some people squirt purely from clitoral stimulation, especially with strong vibrators that send deeper sensations through the entire vulva and pelvic floor.

Lube is essential here. Squirting usually requires time, comfort, arousal, and a relaxed body. Lube helps everything feel better and reduces friction so you can actually enjoy the process. A lot of people also feel like they need to pee right before squirting. This is normal. It happens because the tissue around the urethra swells with blood and presses near the bladder. If this worries you, pee before you start so your mind can relax. And when the sensation builds, try to let go of the fear and see what your body wants to do.

When feeling the pressure or sensation like you might squirt, sometimes it helps if you then pull the fingers, toy or penis out of you and stimulate your clitoris briefly or not at all. When whatever is stimulating your G-spot is pulled out, it can help with the release of Squirting. You might want to try this over and over till you get it right.

Positions That Help

Missionary is one of the best positions for hitting the G-spot. Adding a pillow under you can also increase stimulation on the G-spot and make it easier to squirt. The butterfly position, where the vulva owner brings their knees toward their chest, creates an even better angle. Lying on the edge of the bed, couch or bench with the penetrating partner standing is another great option. Doggy style can also work well, especially if you want to add clitoral stimulation at the same time.

The Cleanup Situation

Squirting is messy. There is no polite way to phrase it. Towels can help, but they get soaked fast. A waterproof or splash blanket is a lifesaver and lets you actually relax without worrying about destroying your sheets.

Final Thoughts

Squirting is completely normal, and it is also not required for good sex. It is not proof of anything. It is just one way a body might respond to pleasure. If you want to explore it, have fun and be patient with yourself. If you are not interested, that is completely valid too. Your body and your pleasure are always yours to define.